Ladies steer the ship carrying the emotional health of their relationship, the man helps to maintain. In my opinion this book helps layout practical concepts in a simple manner most ladies and gentlemen understand. Men tend to fix things, shovel coal, and say what’s on their mind (if it matters to them). Women often talk in code, and try to decode what the man is saying. If he's a plain talker, this often leads to misunderstanding the significance of what he said, and too often completely missing the point. Unfortunately wars have been started over missunderstandings.

An adopted son (at 14, from my ex-wife’s twin), did not listen to my advice about sex. A young lady in high school picked him out to be hers, they had a child, and nine years later another. Seriously I tried working with him, but he said "she was not who he wanted to spend his life with." They were living together and began fighting regularly, irrational. After I read this book, I decided I was working with the wrong half of the equation, and I offered it to her. Six months later they were married. If you'd like more detail read on.

I bought this book for myself and wish I read it when first published, but I still had much to learn. The stories are simple testimony from real people, the concepts are priceless. Everyone should be happy but not everyone is ready. This book teaches about cross-gender communication. Men should read it to understand how they should be treated, with love and compassion of course. I tell them not to give it to their wife, because she may be insulted, and never read it. She should already be perfect just the way she is, never criticize her (she’ll do enough of that on her own), and just randomly pick something you love about her to acknowledge the Goddess inside her. I tell them to simply place the book on their nightstand. If she asks, just say you heard the book can help you be a better partner, husband, friend, man. That you really love her, and want to be the best partner you can be. If she asks to borrow it tell her no Sweetheart, you’re perfect just as you are, don’t change a thing. If she continues, suggest reading it together, and she can help you understand it. I tell the woman to read the book, so they learn how to care for their pet. Honest people can work things out, and an honest man is a simple creature don’t try to change him. Just love him, help him understand how to help you, and recognize the God in him for the good things he does to please you.

I was diving into every nuance by the last chapter, but found it (for a man) to be the most boring chapter of the book. She takes a really long time (talking code) to say the simple truth “If he wants ‘it’ just give it too him.” But seriously ladies and gentlemen a little sexual tension is healthy to spur the youthful exuberance of anticipation, be sure your up on “The Joy of Sex” and other more sensual or spiritual aspects of relationships. Intimacy should never be used as a tool or withheld from a good man doing his best. Remember a good man is a simple creature and he’s hard wired for simple pleasures a happy wife (I cannot express in words how hard a man will work to please his wife, even if she is less than supportive of his needs), happy life, good food, and GREAT SEX!!! Conversation and making memories are wonderful but be sure our basic needs are met. We will give our lives to you. The woman is in charge of her happiness, telling her husband (asking is much better) what she needs help with. If she is not happy, it is because she’s either with a narcissist/sociopath, or she hasn’t told the engineer she needs more coal in the engine room. (Please excuse my sarcasm, he might not be the right person. Or she is the sociopath. Character flaws do not discriminate. Note: Men and Woman sociopaths have two traits in common. They lack empathy, and take pleasure manipulating others. They are some of the nicest people you don't want to know!)

The young lady quickly began applying concepts she learned in the book. Six months later they were getting married. I asked him, how’s life, he said "I couldn’t be happier." Each of four years after he said the same thing, and I stopped asking.

Originally I read about 100 reviews from ladies here on Amazon. One lady's parents had a perfect marriage 40 years of bliss, still glowing after all those years. But her marriage was not as good. She read the book, and two weeks later her marriage was perfect! They say men love you like a dog, kick’em and they keep coming back for more. Hoping for love, but tolerating abuse to a point. They also say women are like cats, chase them, and they will run away. Sit still and they will come lay in your lap, and purr... nice happy life... 😇

Another lady doesn’t like the author at all, loaths her like a zombie (my adaptation), but her marriage wasn’t doing so well. A friend loaned her the book, out of respect for her friend she’s read it. Two weeks later her marriage was fine... 😇

If it’s the right person it might be the wrong time. If it’s the wrong person it’s always the wrong time. Good cake doesn’t need frosting, and frosting doesn’t fix the cake. Though a little doesn’t hurt. It’s who’s inside that counts.

From the first page, “this book is not to fix all relationships... If you’re suffering from addiction, abuse, or affairs save yourself and get out.” I’m told Phil Donahue put that on the last page of his book, backwards thinking Phil. I much prefer how Laura S. ended her book, emphasizing in every way she could think of “If your man needs loving, give him prime choice, and top shelf loving!” You never want him looking for love in all the wrong places. To a healthy man food and great sex are basic needs we live for. Yes we also enjoy many other interests, but nature has endowed us with a very strong need for placing our lives, our love, and our essence in the hands of a woman who cares for us. We can fix things we understand, but emotional eddies are far too complex for most men.

Too many don’t understand this simple truth. So men are abused, get frustrated, and most are outclassed whenever a woman uses emotional manipulation on them. This my friends are not the type of woman you want. Read David Deida’s “The way of the superior man” and Corey Wayne’s “The 3% man.” Western sociopolitical manipulation has perverted how men and women treat each other, by filling our media with divisive concepts, and bad role models. Simply to weaken our family structure and make sheep easier to herd. The strength and foundation of our world, depends on the love, compassion, and peace we have in our hearts.

Love, the most powerful force in the universe, share it without restraint, and know we are all riding around the sun together!

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